Hashtag Self-Care

self-careThe term “Self-Care” has become increasingly popular over the past few years and I am delighted that it is finally being recognized for how important it really is. I have been thinking about self-care more in depth lately and tuning in to what it truly means to care for yourself (#selfcare). I could do a list of tips and tricks for self care and examples of what that looks like, but the truth is…self-care is so personal that it really comes down to the things that make YOU feel closer to…well, YOU! Self care is what makes you feel more alive, more connected to your body, more soul-drenched-in-love, more aware and more “in-tune”.

When we think of self-care we often think of steamy bubble baths, long reflective walks by the ocean, pedicures, vacations, or fancy face masks. While all of those things are excellent and definitely on the list for living a balanced life, they are not the only ways to show yourself some love. Self care to me is also in the harder stuff. The difficult choices, the choices were you have to chose which path your life will take. I was recently inspired and so in awe of a close friend of mine who decided that despite her dream of owning her own salon, the reality of the stress and overwhelm from managing, leading and training apprentices (and much more) became out of alignment for her. She was sacrificing her well-being in order to live up to a pre-conceived expectation she had of herself. She made the incredibly brave choice to let go of co-owning the salon and decided to work for herself as a chair renter (a smaller business within a business). To me, this is the highest form of self care there is. You are showing up for yourself and saying “My Life is important, my body is important, how I feel is important, and the journey is more important that the destination”.

Sometimes our vision needs to re-adjust in accordance with where we are at emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. If you are hurting yourself to get to where you want to be, ask yourself if it’s worth it. Because life is moving and the end destination might not be as gratifying as you thought, once you get there, if you are willing to miss everything else along the way.

Self care can also be in the little choices we make. Yesterday after a busy day at work I was going to grab a burger and fries for dinner. I wanted something greasy and satisfying. But then I thought about how quickly that satisfaction would fade. The real reason I was craving something greasy was because I was feeling tired and stressed. Valid reasons, however I knew that I could also make something healthier at home (and save money). I planned something easy and delicious to make at home and got myself a bag of the “healthier” potato chips instead. I made the choice to care for my body from an aware place, not a stressed and reactive place. When I got home I didn’t rush to make dinner right away. Instead I sat for awhile, meditated, had a few chips as a snack and began cooking once I felt a little more grounded. I was still feeling really tired and stressed, but instead of escalating the stress I released some of it by being quiet with myself for awhile. That is self care. The choice to eat healthy, the choice to make it easier on Myself, the choice to have a little of what I was craving, the choice to allow Myself some time to decompress.

Don’t get me wrong I still love my bubble baths and nature walks, but I want to focus also on what choices I can make to better support my well-being. How can I show up for Myself and honour my feelings. How can I give Myself more space, more time to unwind and heal. We don’t actually need to figure out how to heal ourselves, our bodies know how to do it and WANT to heal for us. Our “job” is to create the space and environments which are conducive to our healing. More love, more calm, more peace.

How do YOU show up for Yourself? What are some self-care decisions you’ve made recently? Self care = Self Love. ❤️

GF & Sugar Free!

benefits-of-kale-1296x728-featureAbout two weeks ago, I changed my diet to eating “Gluten Aware”. I also cut way down on eating added sugar. My diet consists largely of plant-based foods, although I still do eat meat, eggs and cheese on occasion. Plant-based to me means lots of greens, veggies (cooked and uncooked), fruits, legumes (such as beans, lentils, chickpeas), nuts (almonds, cashews, hazelnuts), seeds (chia, sunflower, pumpkin, flax), and of course delicious nut butters, almond milk, smoothies, and cold-pressed vegetable juices. The world of plant food is vast and full of flavour, I think it is sad when people do not explore these wonderful flavours. I have been strictly vegan and vegetarian before, but I find the best diet for me is one where I listen to what my body needs and allow Myself some wiggle room while maintaining a healthy diet as my LIFESTYLE. I don’t believe in condemning myself for eating some meat when I feel like it. There are no vegan police and I do believe that I am doing my part for our environment and the best for my body by regularly choosing veggie meals. 

Sugar was a hard craving for me to kick, which is surprising because I didn’t really think that I ate that much sugar. But what I didn’t realize was how many things sugar is actually in! It’s in so much of the packaged goods we buy at the grocery store – even the healthy granolas. It’s in the obvious things like pastries, sweets, chocolate, muffins and cookies. And it is addictive in a big way. Your body will actually crave sugar at certain times of the day when you are used to eating it at those times. So to kick your cravings it will require a fair amount of willpower (obviously). It won’t be easy at first, and you will daydream longingly of the muffin section at JJ Bean around snack time. You will have thoughts , “is there no joy in life anymore”, and “why shouldn’t I treat Myself…I Deserve it”! But there truth is: You deserve better. You deserve a clear mind, a strong immune system, healthy digestive function, optimal brain function, and a great sleep. Sugar will directly affect all of these things…and not in a good way. I can’t speak much to affects of gluten, but I will do more research. I decided to give it up because I watched a few Ted Talks that spoke about how eating “GF” could improve symptoms of anxiety and OCD.

When I am quitting something, it is important for me to know my “why”. Once I am strong in my “Why” then tackling those cravings and keeping myself accountable feels easier. Because I know I am in it for something better. Something that I have control over. We do have the power to choose what we put in our bodies, and what we put in our bodies is a reflection of how good we will allow ourselves to feel. If we don’t make the big changes, we won’t get the big results. So many of us (Myself included) complain about our various ailments and about not feeling good. Here is some brutal honesty: how much are you actually doing about it? I used to tell Myself I was doing everything I could to feel better, but was I really? I was doing alot, yes, but I needed to step it up even more. Sometimes it’s the things we least feel like doing that will actually make the improvements in our quality of life. The things that we usually know we “should” be doing but just haven’t got around to it yet. Well I’m telling you, and I’m telling Myself – that you need to do it now. Because your best life is waiting for you. You just have to be willing to give up the fake stuff. 

Benefits I have noticed from cutting out sugar and gluten:

  1. More mind clarity (less foggy/scattered thoughts)
  2. More stable energy
  3. Improved digestion (better bowel function)
  4. More balanced mood
  5. Better sleep
  6. Less cravings (after the first few days the cravings taper off)
  7. More motivation 
  8. More trust in my Body
  9. Sense of accomplishment and power

Choose growth. Choose better.

Today my partner and I went to our first couples therapy session. I truly believe that almost all couples would benefit from taking the leap of going to counselling together. It is no secret that there are different phases in romantic relationship. The first is the honeymoon phase, during which you fall in love. Your new partner amazes you and you feel mostly happy and giddy about the potential which they bring to this new relationship. Rainbows and sunshine are all around, and you seem to have so much in common. Conversation is great and you feel like you are under the spell of their warmth and your heart radiates a child-like playfulness. 

The second phase in called the “power struggle”, wherein differences are revealed and you begin to notice things about your partner that were outshone by your rose-tinted glasses in the previous phase. Essentially, you and your partner become comfortable with each other and allow yourselves to be real and raw and human. Couples either work through this together or break up during this time. That obviously depends on many different factors in the relationship. I won’t say too much more about this and the following phases because there is a plethora of information available on the inter webs if you are interested. 

So – therapy. Why? I am a person who seeks growth, for Myself as an individual and in my relationship. I know that I need a partner who wants the same. I desire a relationship in which we deeply connect. People sometimes poo-poo therapy (although this stigma is changing) or assume that you are super messed up if you go to therapy. Well, I am a little messed up. But I’d rather be a little messed up and working on Myself than sitting like a log and waiting for life to get better. Plus – aren’t we all just a little crazy in our owns ways? What does Dr. Seuss call it – falling in mutual weirdness with someone. In my opinion, your quirks are what gives you character, what makes you unique, what stands in your way sometimes, and also what makes you shine. We need to start owning our quirks and weird things that we are scared people will judge us for. It’s what makes us human and lovable. 

During our therapy session we were asked to share 3 things that we appreciated about each other and how those things made us feel. Then we shared how those feelings and appreciations were familiar or unfamiliar to us growing up. We also repeated back to each other everything the other person had said, as a way to solidify that we had heard them and understood what they had said. There is nothing that makes you feel more listened to than someone else repeating back to you what you said. And being appreciated is such a great feeling. We all had certain needs as children and we seldom got them all met. Our therapist today told us that it is not by coincidence that we choose our mates. That our partner is actually the one who will give us the opportunity to heal those unmet needs, should we choose to. That is why our partner pushes all our buttons sometimes, because that person is unconsciously prompting you to fill those wounds with love and acceptance. 

Life is a series of choices – everyday choices like what to eat and what to wear, important choices like how to plan your day, giant monster-truck sized choices such as who to marry and when to have children or what the next step in your career is. These choices are presented to us – to choose the path of our lives, to be the director of our lives. Small choices lead to bigger choices. Small problems solved lead to better problems to solve. One thing is certain – we will always have choice (even if it is small), and we will always have problems. If you are waiting for the day your problems will magically disappear you will be waiting an eternity. Everyone has problems of some kind. The goal is just to have better problems than you used to have. I believe that life is happening for us, not to us. Time is precious. We have choice. So make a choice. Choose to acknowledge your fear, to face it. Choose to Love. Choose to believe. Choose to be courageous. Because time isn’t waiting for you. It will keep on going, and it is long but it moves steadily forward. So be here, do what puts a big phat grin on your face. Laugh and be silly because we don’t laugh enough. Tell someone that you appreciate them and why. Be kind to others – you don’t know their story. Love your body no matter WHAT. Be your own fucking hero. 

 

 

Throw Worry to the Wind

I have spent a lot of time in life worrying. Worrying about what others think of me, worrying about what the future is going to be like, worrying that I won’t be happy in the future, that I won’t be good enough, that I will feel stuck or lose Myself to the madness of the Patriarchy. The truth is most of the things that I worry about are unknown at this point and it is actually a waste of energy to worry about them. Most of the things I worry about aren’t even a reality or won’t even happen! But letting go or worry is scary – because then you will be freed up from all this time spent worrying. Then you actually have to live your life! And life is full of change, and change is scary so it’s easier to just worry about change than to face it.

The thing is (and this is very important to remember about change), is that you don’t have to have it all figured out. Even when we think we have it figured out we seldom do. Things go one way, or another or take a different turn. Not necessarily a bad turn or a good turn, just a different one than we could’ve anticipated. Life is always changing and evolving – that is a constant. And so are you. Wether you like it or not. It’s when we don’t embrace change and we try to control it that we get to feeling stuck in the muck. And the muck is never a fun place to be. The muck is where you try so hard to keep things the same – and it traps you. Yes change is scary,  but it is absolutely necessary for growth. I choose growth. The future is not certain nor entirely predictable…but how fun would Life be if it were??

So if you don’t have to have it all figured out then what do you do even do? Just go running blindfolded into a brick wall? Well…sometimes yes. And it hurts for a bit. But you’ll get over it (the pain, not the wall). The first thing you need to do is figure out how you want to feel. And then figure out how to get that feeling. When your goals are feeling-based they are always more meaningful. So, you have your goal in mind with all the pretty feelings associated with it and now what? Well, it is actually very simple. You just take one step (figuratively speaking). Just the next small step that will move you an inch closer to achieving your goal. Be patient and let the answers reveal themselves with time. Trust in the process and be interested in the process, because most of the time that’s half the fun. Sometimes when you have worked so hard to achieve your goal and you finally reach it, like 3 or 4 other goals are like “Hey! You weren’t even trying for us but you may as well knock us out too while you’re here!” And just like that, you be crushin’ goals all at once when you didn’t even expect it.

The Truth is that you are ok. You are inherently good. And anyone who thinks otherwise can get the F right outta your way. Because you simply have no time for them. You have no time for the non-believers. You are too busy being a badass. You only have time for those that bring MAGIC to your world. For those precious humans that believe you and support you. The ones that are so bright they light up your life – those are the people you have time for. Because that’s who YOU are.

So tell worry to take a hike or a back seat, whichever you prefer. Because you are most definitely not your worries. They are a waste of that beautiful space in your mind. Don’t abandon all caution, that is not what I am saying. Use your common sense and tune into your wisdom and intuition to give you guidance. But don’t listen to those thoughts rumbling and tumbling around in your head all day. Let them duke it out with each other because eventually they will tire when they realize you aren’t paying them much attention anyways. You have better things to do. 

Expect there to be shit and be ok with it.

AdobeStock_12514430Anyone with the slogan “Posi-vibes only” as their life goal should just live in a room full of shiny pillows while only eating cream puffs for the rest of their lives. Seriously tho, take your positive vibes and suck it. It’s a crock of shit. Let’s get real for a minute here, no one on this earth (unless maybe you are a buddhist monk or have transcended the human experience) is positive all the time. Cuz fuck, complaining feels GOOD. Especially when you have people to complain with or to complain to. Commiserating together is a great feeling. But it’s not lasting and doesn’t hold much integrity. Also, no one is happy all of the time. Like when people say “I’m just a happy person”….um no you don’t get to own one single emotion that defines your entire being. It’s not possible and actually makes you inhuman. So if you are a “happy person” all of the time, I suspect you are probably disguised as a nasty troll. 

The happiest people I have met in my life actually experience a wide variety of emotions at deep levels. They feel incredibly sad at times, furiously angry, and yes they also experience feeling totally blissed the F out. You can’t possibly BE happy all the time because if you were never sad, you would have nothing to compare happiness to. So happiness would just be a perm-state in which you live, making you a toad. I bet even toads get pissed off sometimes, sitting on those slimy rocks. Until they catch a juicy little fly on their tongue and they’re like, fuck ya! These slimy ass rocks be so worth sittin’ on! 

Basically, I believe that the degree to which you have felt pain also allows you to experience that same degree of blissful joy. Not saying you’re gonna feel super joyful just because you felt sad yesterday, but do know that you are CAPABLE of feeling joy to that level. People who want to be happy all the time and won’t accept any negativity in their lives are basically too uncomfortable with their own pain to be exposed to any of yours. Hell no they don’t wanna hear that shit! Cuz it stirs up their own unresolved pain! Now, I’m not saying you should just roll over and let people bulldoze your emotions with their trauma stories. However, depending on your won capacity of course and this will be different for everyone, maybe it is ok for people to share like a toy size Tonka truck of their pain with you. Lend an ear, be curious, listen, perhaps relate through your own experiences. Show empathy. 

Back to my “positive vibes only” tribes out there…can I just hit you with a little dose of beautiful realness please. In this crazy time of instagram fame and twitter scandals, people are bombarded with people’s best stories, their best selfies, their best OOTDs, their best vacations etc etc. We are posting as if to say, look at me, my shit’s on LOCK every damn day. But no, your shit is NOT looking primo every damn day. I know mine isn’t. So now we have subconsciously registered in our minds that is it NOT ok to be unhappy, or to feel sad, or joyless, or depressed, or anxious. We feel anxious because the world is telling us we need to feel good. We are told that not feeling good is not okay. And we are buying it. We are believing that feeling shitty is somehow really really not okay. We are then trying to find the quickest way to feel better. Let me tell you – the easiest and quickest way to feeling happy or better is most often not the healthiest, nor does it have much longevity. Unless it’s petting a puppy or a bunny.

Can I just give you a giant myth buster right now?! FEELING SHITTY IS 100% OKAY. It’s OKAY to feel lost, or anxious, or depressed, or disheartened, or sad, or vulnerable. These feelings are real and they are meant to be felt for a reason. Expect to have challenges in life, expect things to be hard. Especially things that are really worth having. Except there to road blocks, detours and hiccups – metaphorically and literally. You can’t escape it so may as well embrace it. What you DO have control over is what you do next when you experience these challenges. Where do you go from here? How do you respond when life stretches you to new places? What will your very next move be? What will your next small but mighty step be? What is life trying to teach you? What lessons are here to be learned? What awareness is there to be gained?

Hoping you all have a good, or bad, day. Whichever is in your best interest to grow to new heights tomorrow.

 

Forgiveness

Forgiveness

I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness recently and what it means. What does it mean to forgive someone who has hurt you, and what does it mean to forgive yourself for ways in which you may have wronged others? What does it take to forgive someone and does it require an apology from the other party?

To get clear I needed to look up exactly what defines forgiveness and it is this:

*Forgive (verb): stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.

This definition actually surprised me, because for a long time I was assuming forgiveness meant that you actually have to like the person again or somehow be totally ok with what happened. It doesn’t magically make what happened all good again, but it does mean that you have let go of the resentment you were carrying. It’s not a thumbs up for hurtful behaviour. Forgiveness means you have truly healed and chosen to see that people are imperfect, people make mistakes, and people sometimes treat you poorly – yet it is not a reflection of you. That’s on them to figure out. But I am choosing to let it go.

I was surprised by the people I have come to forgive, and the people I haven’t. Some people may take much longer to forgive than others, due to the severity of the pain they caused. That is ok too. Forgiveness takes time, you can’t force it or rush it. Pretending everything is hunky-dory when it’s not and stuffing it down is also not forgiveness. Reflecting on people who have hurt me and feeling much more neutral towards them now is a very freeing feeling. Sometimes we may wish to rebuild relationships with those people, and sometimes those people are much better left in the distant rearview of our lives. The truth is you will probably never get an apology from many of the people who have hurt you. They may be too caught up in their own stuff or simply unable to recognize how their actions affected others. But this doesn’t mean you have to live stunted from these experiences forever.

My recent mantra to Myself:

It is not my fault for the shitty things that happened to me in the past. It is my responsibility to Myself to heal from it.forgiveness-quote

Brick-laying

Trust is one of the things that basically keeps us alive in a sense. Without trust we probably wouldn’t get out of bed or leave the house. I know this from my personal experience, as I have been through a period of severe anxiety which came to full strength in the summer of 2017. I had many many wrenching ups and downs in the years before that since 2015 – experiencing PTSD while recovering from my trauma. I can confidently say that I am definitely on an uphill climb in my recovery – the place I am today feels miraculously different (and better) than where I was a couple years ago. My healing journey has never been linear and I think it is safe to say that no one person’s healing is ever like slowly rowing your well-equipped boat down a merry little stream.

My healing required tough-as-nails choices, some hard reality checks, an unwillingness to quit, and an unwavering commitment to Myself and to my growth. This all sounds sort of abstract so to give you a clear visual I will say this:

My journey was like climbing the grouse grind…with 40 pounds of bricks strapped to my back…two glasses of water in each hand (which must remain full by the time I reached the top), while balancing a fuzzy pillow on my head. Oh and I was naked. For those that aren’t local to Vancouver, the grouse grind is a steady uphill climb on the side of grouse mountain, comprised of uneven steps the entire way up. Just when you think you’ve been putting in a solid effort and it seems almost impossible to go on, you see that you are only at the 1/4 way mark. Sounds somewhat challenging, am I right? This analogy of what it takes to truly heal from the inside out is not meant to scare you…but to show you that it takes conviction. It was no small feat. The gold lining is that doing it – and continuing to be committed to your growth is worth its weight in diamonds.

So – Trust. This journey for me was so largely about re-building my trust that had been broken way too many times. Trust is laid carefully around us like bricks, it is our foundation from the moment we are born. We learn and try things and slowly begin to trust our surroundings and our environment. But we cannot learn to trust solely on our own either. We require care and love and safety from others – our parents/caregivers and family. We need to see trust demonstrated to us. Then we can begin to learn to trust and believe that we are safe.

Things will undoubtedly happen to us over the course of our lives where we feel scared or untrusting. These experiences will cause us to doubt others, ourselves and our environment. This is trauma and the degree of trauma depends on the degree to which your trust was broken. The good news is that trust is rebuildable. It takes TIME and PATIENCE and even more PATIENCE. It takes safe people and community. It takes taking responsibility for your own healing. We are NOT to blame for our trust being broken and we are definitely not at fault. We DO, however, owe it to ourselves to take the necessary action to heal our wounds. This is our call, and no one else can do it for us. We must relay the new bricks of our foundation. One by one. Start from scratch if you have to. Let go of the debris. I promise you this – your new foundation will be much more solid and resilient than the one you began with. Because these bricks are laid with purpose, with intention and with the utmost care.

 

Slowing down for simple pleasure

On my flight to Mexico I met a well-known blogger named Neil Pasricha who started a blog called 1000awesomethings.com and is a successful author/public speaker. After speaking to him briefly, I realized how much I have been through and how much wisdom I have earned in seeking therapy to heal from my trauma. I have been thinking a lot about slowing down and what it means to slow down. How do we feel it? During a yin yoga class a couple of days ago I was feeling very anxious. My thoughts were racing and I kept thinking the worst was going to happen to me. I kept fidgeting and found it difficult to settle into stillness and flow. After a few poses I finally settled into my practice. I felt a profound stillness inside. Calm – just here in this moment right now. Nothing before, nothing after, just now. I realized that so often even when we think we are relaxed or calm there is still so much possibility to slow down even more. And then even more still. We have become accustomed to running at this quick-tempo pace. That is why slowness and being fully in the moment feels so uncomfortable at first. We aren’t used to this feeling of luxurious repose and tranquility – so contrasting from our fast-paced world. But this is why slowing down is even more important than ever. The more moments, minutes, hours we can find to sllllloooowwwwww it right down – the more we can be here and ready for those times when we need to gear up and shift into action. 

When we slow down, we notice more. We notice the nuances and simple pleasures of life. I was inspired by reading the “1000awesomethings” blog and am going to make a list of my own simple pleasures that often go unacknowledged or unappreciated.

Here a few of them (in no specific order):

  1. When you take a sip of your tea (or coffee) and it is the perfect drinking temperature. It doesn’t scald your unsuspecting mouth and it’s not like drinking luke-warm bath water. You sipped your tea in that perfect temperature window.
  2. When you crawl into your cosy bed at night and it’s just the perfect nest of warm softness against your skin. Your limbs feel supported and cocooned in the best way.
  3. When your dog listens to you the first time you ask them. Those times you say “sit” and they instantly sit, without any reward waiting. Ah, success!
  4. Those first few moments when you step into a hot tub or hot bath after feeling cold and the warm/hot water instantly soothes your skin and warms up your feet and toes. So glorious!
  5. When you are thinking something and your partner says the same thing. Yes! No dialogue needed, we have that special telepathy going on today!
  6. Being prepared for the weather. Wether it’s an umbrella, extra gloves or toque, sunscreen or sunglasses…doesn’t it feel so good to have the things that make it just that one bit more comfortable for you? 
  7. Turn on Netflix to discover that new episodes or your favourite TV series have been added! Woohoo!! Time to cosy up, grab some snacks and welcome the pleasant and sometimes needed distraction of a fictional storyline.
  8. Watering your plants and they bounce back to life. No more droopy leaves my ferny  friends! Green thumb is here!
  9. Opening a new bag of chips. So much potential for deliciousness in that bag and it is all at your fingertips, awaiting your salivating taste buds. That first crunch, so satisfying! Crunch, crunch, crunch!
  10. When someone holds the door open for you. Thanks, stranger friend! Thank you for noticing me and for being kind.

 

What are YOUR simple pleasures??? I want to know!! Please leave them in the comments or make a list of your own 🙂 

Strength of the elements

I was fortunate to have recently travelled to Tulum and Playa Del Carmen, Mexico. It is difficult to process all the different experiences and emotions of my trip. So I’m going to keep it simple. One of the joys I experienced while I was there was a strong connection with nature and it’s elements. I was walking along the ocean shore and took the time to feel the wind on my face, my feet in the soft wet sand, the sun burning hot against my back, and the sea water rushing over my feet and legs. I felt the energy of each element – air, earth, fire and water – as I experienced it for a few moments. They all have special powers and are all necessary for us to live. We need air to breathe and to bring oxygen to our bodies and other beings and plants. We need the earth to ground us and support us, hold our weight with its gravity – so that we may always have someone to catch us when we fall down. We need fire to keep us warm and keep our passions alive. We need water to cleanse and nourish our bodies, to stay hydrated and fluid.

So – with this simple yet vital connection to the elements – may we learn to embody our best selves.

May we breathe in gratitude each and every day. Exhaling that which does not support our best life.

May we walk with our feet connected to the earth, taking each step with purpose. We are lucky to be portable – but let us remember that which always supports us.

May we live drenched in sunlight, figuratively or literally. Letting it heal our wounds and absolve our sorrows, showing us that a bright present and future is possible.

May we move through our lives like water, ever flowing and ever curious. Drinking in its restorative powers, emulating its ease and grace.

 

Today I am grateful that the sun is shining.

Prioritizaton (ugh!)

My priority today is to eat tacos. It’s also to do a yoga class. Doesn’t it suck when you had every best intention to do something and the end of the day rolls up to your door to find that you haven’t done that thing you really wanted to do? I am realizing more and more that when something is important to us it requires planning. Doesn’t have to mean detailing it for hours on end, but it does require you to get clear on what is important to you in a day – and in your life. Yes – we all have jobs and things that we “have” to do in a day, but we also get more say in our time here than we give credit to. Creating space for that which gives you space and joy is one of the best feelings – it makes us feel powerful. Creating space to create. Because we are taking charge of our own destiny and not idly hoping that things will just “happen” eventually.

Yoga is really important to my sanity and well-being. Yet I don’t find myself going as much as I’d like to. Ideally I want to go to a class 2 times a week and then also do a home practice in the mornings. It sounds easy enough in theory, but there are a multitude of other things that I let (yes- I let them) get in the way. This is where my prioritization needs to step it up. No one is going to make sure I go to yoga, I am the only one in charge of this. So it will require some planning. Figuring out when the best class times are for me, what type of classes are best for me, and what do I need to move aside to make it to those classes. I need to actually plan my day around my yoga class – if that is my top priority for the day. Not just try to fit it in when its convenient. If you leave it to convenience, chances are it won’t happen. We find so many reasons why it’s not convenient for us (we are tired, there are so many other things that need to be done etc etc.) CHOOSE where you spend your energy. Know where your energy reserves are at for the day. Do what FEEDS your energy rather than drains it. BE REALISTIC WITH YOURSELF.

Priorities can also often lead to unrealistic expectations of ourselves. This is also due to lack of planning. If we pile on too many “to-do’s” in a day, we will burn ourselves out trying to get it done and probably not get that thing done that was most important to us. PLAN AROUND your top priorities, put them FIRST. Let the other things be “extras”, and don’t give yourself the run-around with gigantic lists. Do things that make sense to do together and allow yourself to feel balanced. Sometimes our energy is low, and it is absolutely ok to get nothing “done” that day and instead focus on the things that are replenishing and will bring you back into balance. The more you say “no” to what makes you feel low vibe, the more chances you will have to say “yes” to the things you love – and actually be able to enjoy what you’ve said yes to doing!

Sending you all Love and Joy in your day today!!